I Abandoned My Husband and Kids
Is It Illegal To Abandon Your Family?
Has the arguing and tension in the house reached DEFCON 5? Are you walking on eggshells, and every encounter with your spouse the potential start of a civil war? Needless to say, living in the same house while planning or going through a divorce can get interesting.
All the arguing in front of the kids can’t be healthy. Someone is going to snap and spend a night in jail. You just know it. You would leave, but you don’t want to be charged with abandonment of children. Plus, you want to stay in the home after the divorce. If you leave, aren’t you abandoning your rights to the house? Do you need a family law attorney?
To leave or not to leave. This would be the question posed by Shakespeare if he ever thought of divorcing Anne Hathaway. While it may be smart to move, or more intelligent to stay, you need to understand how courts view this issue. A big question to answer is “Can I leave my husband and take my child with me?”
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Can I leave my home with our children when I separate from my spouse?
When you’re considering leaving your spouse and taking your children with you, it’s crucial to understand your legal rights and risks. While it is possible to leave, many factors must be addressed first.
Before you leave
- Seek legal advice early. Even if you’re still living under one roof, consulting a family‑law attorney helps clarify your rights involving custody, relocation, support, and property. Without a court order, both parents generally retain equal rights to the children.
- Prioritize safety. If you or your children are in danger, your immediate safety must come first. Your attorney can guide you on protective orders, safe relocation, and how to preserve your legal position.
- Communicate if you safely can. If it’s safe, notify your spouse of your intentions and keep records of your communications. Clear documentation of custody arrangements, visitation schedules, and your children’s location reduces the risk of future legal complications.
What to expect after you leave
- Equal parental rights still apply. Leaving the home does not automatically grant you sole custody of your children. Until the court issues an order, both parents typically have equal rights and responsibilities.
- Legal action is a possibility. Moving out with children without agreement or a court order can trigger legal challenges. The other parent could request temporary custody or even seek the children’s return. Courts may view unilateral moves negatively when determining long‐term custody.
- Custody and visitation proceedings follow. Ultimately, the court will decide custody and visitation based on what’s in the children’s best interests — factoring in living arrangements, parental involvement, and stability. How you act now can influence that outcome.
- Relocation raises special issues. If you intend to move permanently, especially out of state or far from the other parent, you’ll face additional obstacles. Most courts require notice, the other parent’s consent or a relocation motion. Without it, your move may be viewed as harmful to the children’s relationship with the other parent and may adversely affect custody decisions.
I Want to Leave My Husband and Kids: the Legal Implications of Abandoning Your Children and Spouse
The first issue to discuss abandonment or desertion of a spouse. There is no Nevada law regarding abandonment or desertion of a spouse. I take that back, you have NRS 123.100, which states you are not obligated to support a spouse who abandons you.
Although there is no law, cutting your wife off from the finances is not a good move. The judge will eventually order you to pay temporary spousal support and child support. The judge may not be happy with your attempts to strangle your spouse financially.
On the other hand, you need to be cautious about how much you disclose to her while living separately. As I will discuss later, the courts like to make final rulings based on current arrangements. Talk to one of our divorce attorneys to create a prudent budget.
If I Leave My Husband, Can I Take My Child
The next issue is the abandonment of children. Clients feel the court will punish them for abandoning their children. Abandonment is a criminal charge when you leave your child without any regard for care. You are leaving the children with your spouse. This is not abandonment. Abandonment of children is a divorce myth. This is a big issue if you decide that you can leave your husband and take the kids.
You need to be careful with visitation schedules. If you leave the kids with your spouse, don’t dig a custody hole with the judge. Living apart for several months and only seeing the children one or two days a week could lead a judge to make this temporary arrangement permanent. Judges tend to resist making changes when current arrangements appear to be working effectively. Two days a week would give the mom primary physical custody.
We typically advise clients who choose to move out to schedule at least three days of custody a week. A day of custody should include sleepovers. Three days and nights is considered joint physical custody. Anything less than three nights could give your spouse primary physical custody of the children.
Abandoning the House
If you decide to leave, you are not waiving any rights to the home. Regardless of whose name is on the title or mortgage. Community property is community property, whether you live in it or not. Equity in a home deemed community property will be divided equally.
Conversely, you are under no legal obligation to move. Your name does not need to be on the mortgage or lease. Spouses cannot be evicted from the marital residence. Only a family court judge has the authority to give “exclusive possession” of the home to one spouse.
If You Afford to Move, Is It Illegal to Leave Your Husband and Take The Kids?
While you are not waiving any legal rights if you move out, it can crunch your wallet. Paying for two households is not easy. Remember, you shouldn’t stop paying all the expenses of the main household because you have a new household. There is a likely chance the court will require you to continue paying for your spouse’s living expenses. Most judges will order you to continue paying mortgages, rents, car payments, groceries, and other bills.
You need to choose a home where the children can spend the night at least three times a week. Moving in with family is one of the better options for tight budgets. One of the recommended scenarios is moving into your parents’ home temporarily. This way the grandparents spend time with the children, and the budget is salvaged. Courts seem to approve this arrangement.
If moving out isn’t an option, you need to figure out an effective way to live peacefully in the marital home. Making a spare bedroom your living quarters and maintaining an active role in your children’s lives is a possible alternative.
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